You are in a situationship but not a relationship when:
- Dating someone that tells you from day one he/she is not interested in any type of commitment.
- There are no expectations, or questions that require an answer. You are both on the same page as to “what it is” and can genuinely have a great time together without strings attached.
- There’s something in it for you. Sex often complicates things, or allows the mind to put up with the lack of commitment because there’s an addictive nature to it. Although it may not be healthy for you to deal with that particular situation, you somehow always end up back there.
- You’re hiding it. You can’t be honest with the closest people to you about what’s going on because it’s not socially accepted and people will judge you for it. There’s no way to formally explain what’s going on between you two because that hasn’t been discussed or defined yet. It’s possible that you’re ashamed of it, but your having fun so who cares…right?
Men very often confuse the two because they expect the women to be to committed to them while galavanting freely as a single man. BE CLEAR about what you’re getting yourself into, because you can’t set boundaries if that wasn’t part of the agreement in the first place. CHANGE THE DYNAMIC if you’re in a situationship, but you’re looking for more.