The way some women talk, as in talk, talk to a man, a maaaan!!! If you lack self control, you will beat her blue black! It is the reason for some domestic violence we hear all over the places!
I don’t support a man beating a woman for any reason in the world, it’s babyish. Come on, you are bigger than that. Why would you hit a woman, why? It’s better you walk out of the house or quit the relationship if you are still courting and she always provoke you to..to..Jesus!!!
Never abuse a man. Don’t! Men have fragile ego. Don’t mind all this macho they do all over the places, most of them can’t handle rejection, abuse, criticism and condemnation, they will break down! Their ego is to be nursed, caressed and stroked through respect, honour and submission.
Don’t marry a hot tempered man if you have a very sharp tongue or you may end up in your early grave.
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Generally, abuse is not good. We shouldn’t abuse people. When you learn how to respect people as a single lady, it will be easy to respect your man in marriage.
Do not shout at your man. Oh, no! Men hate to be shouted at.
Do not abuse your man no matter how you are provoked. Breathe in, breathe out, think before talking.
Do not criticize a man. If you must correct, praise him silly first.
Do not correct a man in public.
Jesus! Do not use his past failures against him. Men hate to fail. Reminding him he is a failure can…hmmm.
Do not castigate his mother ooo.
Do not use his physical defects against him.
As a married woman, do not use his sexual performance to make jest of him, you have killed him completely. Husbands like to be conquerors in bed not defeated weaklings!
Learn to give him regard. Listen when he talks. Give him your undivided attention. Do not talk when provoked. Swallow the saliva hard, bite your tongue till it bleeds, look at the ceiling, shake your head or blink ten times, parade your balcony, take fresh breeze, sweep, do some chore, just do something to get that madness out of you before you descend on your husband with your tongue!
Anger does no one any good. Someone has rightly said, “Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.” Some women can’t even regret, they have been buried in the grave before they knew what went wrong.
Do not marry a violent man. Do not marry a hot tempered lady. Learn to control yourself. Talk maturely when necessary. Keep your mouth shut when you have nothing to say.
Learn to control anger, don’t let anger control you.
End all abusive relationship/courtship, it will do you no good.
Manage your husband well in marriage. If you can get the key to his heart, all fighting will come to an end.
Sometimes it is not the devil fighting us, our tongue is the devil doing all the unnecessary damages!
!ay the Lord grant you the wisdom you need to run your marriage well.
You will not mis-choose!
Thanks for reading. God bless you. Cheers!
© Seun Oladele, 2019.